My favorite quote

"I just wanted to tell you that your kids are the ONLY reason I will have kids when I'm older..."
Helen. 7/24/09

Words to live by

If it is to be, it is up to me.

What I learned this week

Sunday: John and I took the boys and Abby to St. Joseph to celebrate little Noah's 2nd birthday. Here he is blowing out his 2 candles on the incredible race track cake Melanie made for him. The cake was just as delicious as it looks, by the way! Picture number 2 is a little birthday love from Noah's big sister, Shelby! Happy birthday, Noah!

What I learned on Sunday: Ok, it was more a sneaky realization - I have to figure out how to trick my sister into making all the fabulous birthday cakes from now on!

Monday: Connie came home from daycare and her right hand was swollen up so much so that her two middle fingers looked like little sausages. The folks at day care have no idea what happened. She had just gotten out of the pool, then she started sqealing and crying. She says she didn't see what happened to her either. She only knows that she and the other kids were playing the "Butt Game". I'm not joking - that's what she called. it. I asked what that game is about. She said "It is when you sit down and whoever has the biggest butt, wins! Then my hand started hurting!"

What did I learn on Monday? I will never play the Big Butt game with anyone and Benedryl knocks Connie out flat. I definitely need to remember the part about the Benedryl...

Tuesday: I took Jess and Abby to the eye Dr. about 2 weeks ago. The girls picked up their glasses on Tuesday! They have been bugging and bugging me for the last week and a half about when they would be able to get the glasses. Now that we have the glasses, Jess is super jazzed and Abby is upset and hates them. She picked out her cute as a daisy purple framed glasses and loved them the day we picked them out. Now that she has to wear them, she hates the things. She also thinks they make her look like a boy - which is not true. She says she can't see well out of them. (I already knew she was going to pull that one. The Dr. told me Abby's sight is so bad without glasses that she will think the glasses are wrong because she isn't used to seeing correctly.) The Dr. said Abby has a pretty bad astigmatism and that the glasses will make her eye muscles work in a way they aren't used to. She wants to see Abs in 2 months to visit about how the glasses are working out.

What did I learn Tuesday: 8 year old girls don't know what they want.

Wednesday: I was driving the little kids out to Beth's house Wednesday morning and as usual, they wanted to listen to a kid cd and I wanted to listen to NPR. They wouldn't give up and I couldn't stomach the thought of listening to Car Songs again. So I rifled though our cds and found Jack Johnson's Curious George sound track. I put that in. As we got close to Beth's house, I remembered that there is a lullaby on the sound track that I used to sing to the boys all the time. Since we would be at Beth's house soon, I skipped a few songs to get to the track I wanted. Jack was up front with me, so I put my hand on his knee and sang the song. Please take a moment and listen for yourself. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XdJVWSqb4Ck When the song was over, I looked at Jack and he had huge tears streaming down his face. "Jack! What's wrong, baby?" He took a deep ragged breath and started sobbing. He was so upset he couldn't even talk. It was all I could do to keep myself from pulling the car over and cuddling him. When we got to Beth's I had to spend about 20 minutes cuddling Jack before he would let me go to work. I was darned near ready to take him to the office with me. Later that day he told me "That song made me sad." I asked if I could sing it to him again sometime. He said "Maybe tomorrow, but not today, mommy, ok?"

Todady I learned my little Jack has some pretty powerful emotions.

Thursday: I was cleaning house when I realized the children had been way too quiet, way too long.

What did I learn: When left to their own devices, the children will SOMETIMES share. I also learned that Jack had a "head-egg" for which he needed medecine. AND, It shouldn't have come as any revelation, but I stopped in my tracks when I realized that Devlyn simply loves to make NOISE. And by noise I mean any possible noise that could be found in any way shape or form as annoying. High pitched noises, check. Loud noises, check. Repetitive noises, check, check, check, check, check. I need to think of a clever way to let her have her noise without driving the rest of us insane. Any suggestions?

Friday: I didn't learn anything Friday, other than I was one tired girl.

OK, friends, that does it for this week. As usual, look forward to more next week. Love and blessings to all of you from Owenland Park!

Bouncy, bong, bong!

First up: The lumpectomy on Monday went well. We checked in at 7:00 and were home by noon - even with a trip to the pharmacy! Can you believe that? I didn't even feel like a drive by patient. John says the whole procedure took about 20 minutes and my doctor was out talking to him in the lobby before he had even had a chance to settle in with his puzzle book. Now for the really great news: The pathology report came back clean and clear on Wednesday morning! John said it was the best birthday present ever.

Cooky but true: John and my Daddy share a birthday.
Also cooky but true: my sister and my sister-in-law share a birthday.
How crazy is that?

You might have picked up on the fact that Wednesday was John and Daddy's birthday. Daddy hit a milestone this year - 60! Happy birthday boys! "It's your birthday song! It's not too long! HEY!"

Mom, Wy and I were hanging out Wednesday evening, waiting for John to get home so we could take the fellas out to dinner. Dad came in the room and Wy pointed to him and said "Best friend, Poppy!" Then he ran over and hugged dad saying over and over "Best friend, Poppy." Of course my momma had to start the territorial dispute over Poppy. Back and forth she and Wyatt argued over my daddy. I'm thinking its not such a bad birthday present to have a 2 year old claim you for his best friend...

We took the fellas out to eat at Dos Reales. My poor Daddy. He doesn't go in for much of a fuss but he was good and cornered...
Of course the kids had to take turns over the hats...
While we were waiting for our dinner, Jack put his arm around my neck, kissed my cheek and whispered "Mommy, you're my girl." I was literally delirious.

Now don't think badly of Abby when I tell you, or of me for telling you that she took a dollar off of one of the tables as we left the restaurant that night. I debated and debated about including this and finally decided to do it because it made me remember the time I was around her age and I stole candy from the K-Mart. When we were in the parking lot, momma saw I had candy that she had not purchased for me. She marched me right back inside, made me give the candy to the manager and apologize...

So, the other night we were headed out of the restaurant and a waitress stopped Abby and said something that sounded like "Did you take a dollar from a table?" The waitress was very nice about it and asked her question quite kindly. I didn't hear Abby's answer or see what happened because I was facing the other direction and had my arms full of a flailing Wyatt. When I turned around the lady was gone and Abby was heading for the car. I asked Abby if she took a dollar and she nodded. So I took her hand and we marched right back inside. Talk about deja vu. I flashed back to the 1980s K-Mart and kept expecting to turn around and see the cherry cola icee machine. Abby and I found the waitress, Abby apologized and home we went. Mom and I haven't quite decided what is apropriate for a punishment, but we are talking of no TV through the weekend. We did explain that tips are how waiters make their money and pay their bills. I'm not sure if it clicked in her head or not.

Jess says you have to hold your breath when you pass a cemetery. She also says that you have to lift your feet when you cross rail road tracks. We pass by a cemetery and over a set of railroad tracks every day on our way to her summer school. Every day she hollers at me to "LIFT YOUR FEET!" I finally asked her how I was supposed to drive if I lifted my feet while crossing the railroad tracks. She didn't have an answer...

I took Connie with me to the U:BUG:ME last weekend and as we drove along we passed a cop who had pulled someone over. Connie asked why there were 2 cop cars with this one car that was pulled over. I was trying to explain that sometimes police officers want to have another person or "back-up officers" with them when they give a ticket, check out a situation etc. I told her these other officers help to make sure things are safe. A few days later we passed another driver who had been pulled over. This time there was only one cop car and Connie said "I want to be a police officer when I grow up." I said that sounded great and what made her want to be a cop? She said "I want to be back-up."

One of Wy's favorite books is Come Along, Daisy . (Thank you Jolie & Jordan!) Daisy is a duck who is supposed to stay close to her mother as they navigate the river. As you may have guessed, Daisy doesn't stick too close to mama because she is too busy playing with dragonflies and such. Daisy has a big scare but is reunited with her mama, who scolds Daisy for wandering of. One of Daisy's adventures while separated from her mama is an encounter with a frog. Daisy and her frog friend hop from lily pad to lily pad "Bouncy, bouncy, bong, bong!" Well...Wy loves to play with balls and chants "bouncy, bong, bong!" every time he sends a ball your way.

A package arrived for the boys earlier this week. John and I sat Jack down to open it up and the first thing we saw was bubble wrap. Jacked cried "BUBBLES!" He then took a deep breath and tried to blow them like you would blow on soap bubbles. Needless say, he didn't have much luck.

I'm just going to get this one out there. Wy ate a razor. OK, he was really chewing/sucking on it when I found him but nonetheless, there he was, for all intents and purposes, standing at the bottom of the stairs, happily eating a razor. You know the disposable kind we ladies use to shave our legs? Full on, in his mouth. I was cleaning the living room and turned around to move a basket of toys and Wy was was just standing there pleased as punch chewing away with this razor in his mouth. It was one of those moments when time stood still for me. Only not in a good way. I literally felt I was moving through slow motion as I shrieked -who knows what I shrieked- and extracted the razor from his mouth. Then I freaked Wy out by running my finger in and out of his mouth, over his tongue and gums checking and checking for blood. I was sure there was going to be blood everywhere and we were going to have to go to the ER for stitches on his tongue or lip. Nothing. I couldn't find any sign of a nick or cut. I don't know how he got the razor because I keep them locked up. I don't know how long he had been chewing on it and I don't know how he avoided slicing open his mouth but I thank God and our lucky stars that he is fine. Can you imagine a 2 year old with a stitched up tongue?

Love and huggies and many blessings from Owenland Park!

Watch me, Daddy!

Well, we had a lovely 4th of July. Melanie and Mark came down with Noah and we took all the kids to the KC zoo. (Thank you DOD and Marilyn!)

The kids loved the carousel, the train rides, kangaroos, tigers, sheep and I can't even remember what other animals we saw. (We spent a lot of our energies herding Abby, Connie and Devlyn who seemed to think they could just wander where and whenever they wanted unattended...)

After a lovely picnic in the parking lot, the kids passed out as we headed over to Aunt Beth's for some YUMMO bar-b-q, courtesy of Uncle Doug!


It seems Wy was the man of the hour with all the young ladies. I don't know how it all shook down, but here he is hangin', watchin the toons with the chicks...

I was trying to cook dinner one night last week and asked John to take the kids outside just to get everyone out from under my feet. John gave the kids sidewalk chalk and out they all went. A little while later John came back in the house with a cranky face. I asked what had happened. John told me that he was drawing trains and numbers on the sidewalk for the kids when Wyatt walked up to him and hollered "Watch me, Daddy!" John turned to see what Wy was doing just as Wy threw a good sized rock. Wy doesn't have any aim to his throws just yet and clocked John right upside the head with this rock.

John said he saw stars and he started bleeding just over his eyebrow. Then he told me that Wy realized something had happened to his daddy. Wy put his hand on John's shoulder, bent over until he could look John in the open eye and said "Oh, Daddy! What happened?" John now has a luscious black eye and backs away three paces whenever Wy says "Watch me!"

My sister-in-law Jeanette gave the boys a few books about a dog named Otto. One of the books is Otto has a birthday. In the book, Otto bakes a cake. His ingredient list includes flour, mud, a bone, shoes and a cootie bug. The cake explodes when Otto tries to take it out of the oven and the whole place stinks to high heaven. Well, Wy is in love with these Otto books and asks for them every night. (Either the Otto books or Come Along, Daisy.) Now, whenever Wy finds some small little thing, he brings it to me saying "Look Mommy, a cootie-bug!"

You know you are a parent when: The fellas and I went to a baby shower for one of my colleagues. After a little bit of swimming, John and I took the boys into the bathroom to change them back into their clothes. As soon as I got Wy's swim diaper off of him he looked at me and said "Look, mommy! Penis!" and promptly started to pee on me. Now, this party just happens to be at my boss' house. And here we are in the bathroom with Wy peeing. Without thinking I shot my hand out to catch the pee so it wouldn't get all over my boss' bathroom rug. Does it occur to me that life happens and you can throw a rug into the wash? No. I can't think beyond - "Oh dear God. Wy is PEEING on Jeff's rug!" And there I am like an idiot trying to catch it. Like my hand is the perfect receptacle. Pee is splashing over the sides of my hand and leaking between my fingers. Inches away from the toilet and I kneel there with my hand out like an idiot.

Since my mom was a little kid, she has had a thing for satin ribbons. You can find 8 inch strips of ribbon all over our house. she uses them as book marks. You can find her reading and rubbing the ribbon between her fingers. She has started to use these strips of ribbon as bits of special grown up magic. The kids love to go to sleep with one of gammy's special ribbons. Wy now has to go to sleep with a train, his passer, his Pooh and a ribbon.

I took Jack, Devlyn and Wy for a walk this morning. (Abbie and Connie didn't get to go because they had been fighting and causing chaos this morning.) On our way home from the park Wy tripped. As soon as he was down he looked back and me and said "I fine! I fine!" but he was having trouble getting up. Just as I made it over to help him, he stood up, lost his footing and fell again. This time his face hit the sidewalk and I swear it sounded like someone had just dropped a bowling ball! He has a nickel sized knot on his forehead and it looks like someone scraped half his cheek off. Can you believe I didn't have my camera with me? Cuz you know I woulda taken a picture. You can see me now... "I'm so sorry Wy. Take a breath baby. Hang on a sec, let mommy get a picture."

Whenever I take these kids for a walk they love to race. They know the rules. They can only race to the next driveway which is where the have to stop and wait for the ok to race to the next driveway. They also know that they cannot race from the last driveway on the block to the corner. I don't want someone to trip at the corner and land in the street - or get carried away and keep running. Anyway - the kids love these races. It doesn't matter who gets to the driveway first, they each turn to me and chant "I WINNED! I WINNED!" Devlyn really doesn't like to lose. If she can tell early on in the race that Jack is going to win, she stops running and says "I will just walk." I think it is because she never wins with her sisters, so she is determined to win somewhere else. Wy doesn't care, he will blow past her and holler "I beat you!"

Oh look, the kids broke the shower door - again. And they were just having a party in there.

We have a few rules in my house. We don't run in the house. We don't hide food in or under our beds. We don't stomp up or down the stairs. We go up and down the stairs like ladies and gentlemen. We answer when we are called for. We don't leave our shoes lying around, we put them away. We don't break the shower door...There are a few others in there. It seems that I am constantly yelling "We don't run in my house!" "We don't leave food on the floor in my house!" "We don't lock the bathroom door in my house!" Well, Mom yelled at Devlyn this past weekend "We don't run in my house!" She said Devlyn looked at her and said "It's Amy's house."

Jack has been out to see U:BUG:ME three times so far. He went opening night. He came with me and watched from the booth a week ago Saturday and this past Sunday. He wakes up every day and asks "Can I go to your work, Mommy?" After a few days of this I finally asked why he wanted to go to my work. He said "To play with the trains on the Thomas table." Now I understand: he is willing to suck it up and hang out while I got things ready for the show. He is willing to watch the show over and over again if it means he can go to the toy store after the show and play with the Thomas play set. I think he is just using me...

I was driving the kids to Beth's house earlier this week. I had the windows down a bit because it was nice out. Just after we pulled off the highway it started to rain. Without thinking about it, I rolled up the electronic windows. Then I heard a breath and screaming. It took me a few seconds to realize I had closed the window on Jack's fingers. After freeing his fingers and apologizing repeatedly I finally asked if he would forgive me. He took in a ragged breath and said "Well..."

The family Jess visited in Omaha the other weekend has said they would be happy to host her during her freshman year. They would like for her to come for another weekend visit before school starts. The family has 5 kids (4 girls and a boy). When they enfold Jess into their ranks they will have a 15, 14 and 13 year old girls. My heart goes out to them... One of my sisters-in-law works with foreign exchange students and has graciously given us a few tips on getting thins started - so we are going to work up some lists and start a dialogue regarding things we are worried about, rules, how to handle homesickness, disagreements, fitting in... It won't cover everything, but it is a great place to start. And, Jess has the added benefit of getting the opportunity to meet the family a few times before being thrust into their midst.

Jess has one more week of summer school math class. She missed one day last week due to a migraine. I have scheduled an appointment for her to see her doctor. I hope we can get a prescription for her. (Actually, John has the migraines too. He has been in and the Dr. has given him a few sample pills to try out over the month. They will meet again to discuss results etc the first of August.)

Abby & Connie presented the gifts at Mass last weekend. They did a great job! I just happened to get this picture because I was in the back room with Jack, Devlyn and Wyatt, none of whom could stop talking, yelling or crying during mass that day.

Abby & Connie have just finished up their swimming lesson sessions through summer day care. They think they are bona fide, qualified swimmers and are not happy when they are told they have to have an adult with them in order to get into the hot tub.

Connie is extremely upset that we are making her read every day over the summer. She keeps telling us "School is over, why do I have to read?" I have finally decided to negotiate; instead of reading the whole book each day she has to read 5 pages and NO CRYING. We spend about 30 minutes each day with Connie's crying jags. She gets herself worked up into a fit and then cant' calm down. So I have decided to set a shorter goal for her - leaving less time for her to work herself up into a frenzy. We'll see how that pans out.

On to the big news - Daddy turns 60 this week. John turns 38 and I am having a peanut sized lump removed from my left breast. My doctors believe and the mammograms show this is a benign mass. However, you don't know unless you get it under a microscope. I was given the option to monitor this thing with mammograms every 4-6 months over the next few years or do a biopsy. I jumped on the biopsy option. In talking things over with my doctor we decided that if we were going in for a biopsy, we might as well just get it out. And so, that is happening Monday morning.

Send me some good karma and I'll tell y'all more about it next time around.

love, hugs, peace and blessings to you all.
Amy & the Owenland Park Gang.

Singing Cowboys

Who needs the Singing Cowboy from New York when you have these three goofballs?



Things just don't slow down in our neighborhood. Since we have come home from California, Jess has been angling to spend every available minute with her cousin Helen (who will be off to KU come the fall) or poolside. Abby and Connie have been taking swimming lessens at their summer day care program. These two young ladies think they have become pretty adept swimmers: never mind that in one week they snuck over into the deep end (two times each I believe it was) and managed to require adult assistance ALL FOUR TIMES. The girls told me over dinner all about how they "drownded" at school that day.

I reached the end of my rope the other day with Jack and the #2 department. I finally snapped last Wednesday and told him that he cannot check Thomas on the e-mail or watch Thomas on the TV or computer until his business is done in the pot. That conversation ended with Jack in tears. I also told him that if he isn't even making an effort in the coming week that I would take away his Thomas trains. That didn't go over well either. Last Monday I took Abbie and Connie to the Dr. for their annual physical and left the boys and Devlyn home with Jess. She put on a Thomas DVD - not knowing that he couldn't even watch Thomas on the TV. She said Jack came running and yelling "NO, NO, NO, Jessica! Mommy says no Thomas on a TV!" She told me turned the DVD off and then the TV. Jack's deadline was a week ago Wednesday. At nearly the very last minute of his timeline - guess what Jack did? I'll just let you know he was granted the right to check Thomas on the e-mail.

Devlyn has finally mastered identifying most of the colors we throw her way. She has trouble with brown. She is not interested in identifying letters or numbers though she is not bad at identifying some shapes... Wyatt's vocabulary is growing by leaps and bounds. He seems to be putting together longer sentences each day too. And he does not like to wear shoes. I will put him in the car and by the time we reach our destination - 7 times out of 10 his shoes are off (as are his sox if he had been wearing them).

We took Jess, the boys and Devlyn to see the opening night performance of U:BUG:ME at the Coterie last night. The kids have been rocking out to the demo CD in the car for months. Jess insists she is going to see it again and again. Jack's only comment was that it was too loud. (Every time I looked over at him, he was sitting at full attention and I might add his hands were NOT covering his ears.) Devlyn was simply in a trance from the moment the actors came on stage and Wy did a great job though he did have some wiggly spots. John didn't even have to leave the theatre with him.

The other week I was looking around for an afternoon snack to give the kids. I wasn't coming up with anything and my eye finally settled on a package of pita pockets. I thought I would make up some toasted peanut butter pita pockets for them. I asked if they would like to have toasted peanut butter pita pockets and Wy came flying through the living room crying "YETH, MOMMY, YETH! PENIS POCKET! PENIS POCKET! PWWWEEEAAATHE!"

He is also in love with pop tarts. When we wake him up in the mornings that child will sit straight up and shout one of two things - "Gordon!" or "Pop tart!" Gordon has actually become a bone of contention among the kids. Gordon went missing for a few weeks without anyone noticing. Once he was found though, all the kids went insane and he is the ONLY train any of them want to play with. Mom now takes Gordon and tells the kids it is time for his nap. John has finally decided that we have to put Gordon away for good...

Mom picked up a little tube of toy turtles and frogs for the boys while she was in California. I opened the box one afternoon and dumped them out for Jack. He was asking me what each one was: "That's a turtle, Jack. That's a frog, Jack." I finally asked him what he was holding. He looked up at me like I was an idiot and said "Well, it's a red eyed tree frog, mommy."

Here's Jack - he gets his shirt part way over his head and says "Look, mommy. I'm a monkey."

All right friends, I'm going to get outta here. I hope to get back to our regularly scheduled programming in the coming weeks. Cross your fingers.

Love and blessings,
Owenland Park!

A Few Conversations

Jack: Wyatt! I am really disappointed with you. You don’t posed to mess up the train tracks.
Wyatt: Yeah.
Jack: Don’t do that some more, you has to play nice.
Wyatt: Yeah.
Jack: You can play if you play nice.
Wyatt: Yeah

Amy: Connie, I want you to try the grilled onion. It's very sweet cooked like this.
Connie: I don't want to.
Amy: I'll try a bite at the same time.
Connie: I don't want to.
Amy: Come on, just one bite.
Connie: OK. (We each take a bite.)
Amy: How did you like it?
Connie: Well, it didn't kill me, but I don't want any more.

Wyatt: Mommy, muhna gur-fie
Mommy: What? (What I really think is "He did not just say girl fight.")
Wyatt: muhna gur-fie
Mommy: I don't know what that means, pal.
Wyatt: MUH-NA GUR-FIE.
(I can't put together any other option other than he wants a girl fight.)
Mommy: We aren't going to a girl fight, buddy.
Wyatt: YES!
Mommy: I give up.
(Weeks later we are still having this conversation when I suddenly realize: He wants me to read "Mater and the Ghost Light"!)

Mommy: Jack - I want you to eat 2 carrots.
Jack: But I don't waaant tooooo...
Mommy: It's just 2 baby carrots, you will be fine.
Jack: (Tilts his head and gives me the eye.) Mommy, I really love your dress.
Mommy: Thank you. You still have to eat 2 carrots.
Jack: ooooh.

I overhead this on the boys' baby monitor:
Jack: Wyatt, can I read to you?
Wyatt: No.
Jack: Wyaaaatt, I will read to you.
Wyatt: No.
Jack: But you will listen. Big Bird and Thomas by: mumble mumble mumble. Jack then 'read' for a bit and paused. "Wyatt, are you listening to me?"
Wyatt: No.

Jack: Can we go ride Thomas?
John: No, buddy. We have to wait till next year.
Jack: But I want to ride Thomas.
John: Pal, Thomas had to go to other cities to visit other kids. He won't be back here for a year.
Jack: Well, tell Jean & Johanna to get tickets to California and we can ride 3 airplanes, an air train and then Thomas, OK?